Saturday 28 May 2016

Happy 5th Birthday My Love

All you ever do
make me smile
all of the time
all the time

 
All you ever do
change my life
every time
every time


Oh all I ever wanted
was something
and all I ever needed
was nothing


You will always be
in my heart
every part
every part

My minion turns five today. I woke up this morning and tried to busy myself around the house cos my heart felt heavy with missing her. I had a pensieve moment (deuces to the Harry Potter reference).

Flashback 4 years ago:

Leading up to her first birthday I was broke. Wanting to make the day special for her I manged to get together $25. I called my brother who was able to transfer $20 and skipped a day from TAFE to reutilise the $5 mum had given me for transport. I can still remember my brother crying over the phone with disappointment because that's all he had to offer.

I got her a $4 dress from Savers, a $5 cake from Woolies and three happy meals for her and her sisters. I recycled an old candle found in our randomcrap kitchen drawer, wrote "1" on it with a permanent marker, plopped the toys from the happy meals on the cake and our party of four sung "Happy Birthday" to her with gusto.

I step back from the pensieve into the present time with a giggle lingering on my lips as I survey the scene. I watch my three minions eat. I mull over where our lives were at and cry. The ugly-wipe-your-snots-on-your-sleeve-can't-breathe kinda cry. Up until that point I never knew that every part of my heart could love like this. 

All my heart can do right now is reach towards heaven and offer a prayer with the hope that it makes it way towards them.

To the three little girls that I was blessed enough to love and mother,

I pray that you will always feel loved. 

I pray that your feelings of acceptance will not be dependent on the price of your clothes or the brand of your shoes.

I pray that you will see the good in others, especially those you claim to love and like Jeffrey R Holland said trust the good, doubt the bad.

I pray that you will not tie your self worth to another's lack of ability to love you or see you.

I pray that your hearts will always be knitted towards each other regardless of time or circumstance.

I pray that you will travel the world in the shoes of another as you delve into books that feed the mind and nourish the soul.

I pray that you will use your experiences of pain to help gain a better perspective on how to love and serve others.

I pray that you will always hold onto the truth that you are the daughter of a Father in Heaven who loves every single bit of you.

I pray that you find purpose and fill the measure of your creation with goodness.

I pray that you will let the light of faith outlive the shadows of sadness.

I love you to infinity and beyond. 
Forever in the eternities. 
Time, distance and death will never separate us.

Happy Days
Sila

Thursday 21 April 2016

Birthday Conundrum

Show me
Who I am and who I could be
Initiate the heart within me
'til it opens properly
Slow down
Start again from the beginning
I can't keep my head from spinning out of control
Is this what being vulnerable feels like?
And I will try, try, try to breathe
'til it turns to muscle memory
I'm only steady on my knees
One day I'll stand on my own two feet

- "Son" by Sleeping at Last


It's 11:00pm and when the clock strikes 12:00 I'll be 29yrs old.

Twenty.

Freaking.

Nine.

Years.

Old.


What the hell have I done with my life!?

The past few weeks I've found myself reflecting on what my life is filled with. There's a lot of goodness, humor, spiritual well being, love for self, love for others, family, friends.

But I also have a tonne of varying emotions tethered to feeling unfulfilled. Probably because I perpetually live my life in fear.

Fear of the unknown. Fear of failure. Fear of rejection. Fear of being vulnerable. 
Fear of food *insert smirk here* if only that was a damn fear lol

I've come up with a bucket list in an attempt to untangle myself from all the chickenheartedness and weave more color and texture into my existence :

"30 Things to do before and while I'm 30"

  1. Get a license – Unwiden your eyes. I know, I know... this should have been ticked off more than a decade ago
  2. Write in my blog at least once a month - good luck with this one you lazy biblical donkey 
  3. Read the Book of Mormon x3
  4. Throw someone a surprise party
  5. Lose at least 20kgs to be at healthy weight
  6. Learn how to swim
  7. Pay for a strangers meal/shopping
  8. Go paintball
  9. Participate in a protest for a cause I believe in
  10. Train and Be able to run 5km - minus an ambulance and oxygen tank #ForrrrrrealTho
  11. Raise money for a charity
  12. Take a burlesque dance class
  13. Memorize a full rap song from start to finish
  14. Sew a dress
  15. Get a henna tattoo - my mormonzoid mind knows that's the closest I'll get to a tattoo
  16. Have a photoshoot with my sisterfriends (The Triangle) and the familia
  17. Memorize Joseph Smith History verses 8-20
  18. Jump in a pool fully clothed – shoes and all
  19. Spontaneously kiss someone - Do it in a way that I won't get charged for sexual assault/harassment because having a criminal record is definitely not on this list lol
  20. Face a fear – take your pick cos you have a lot to choose from (e.g jump off a pier, hot air balloon)
  21. Be an extra in a movie/tv show (Main role preferably. But let’s be real. Highly unlikely:P)
  22. Go semi-nude skinny dipping - Due to public concern full monty will most definitely NEVER be an option
  23. Have a food/mud fight
  24. Learn how to play an instrument – or at least a full song on an instrument (not the spoons, cos you have that down pat)
  25. Learn how to Samba or Tahitian tamure like a pro
  26. Dance in the rain
  27. Serve food to the needy on Christmas Day
  28. Eat a humongous-decadent cake without using my hands – Matilda style
  29. Visit a country I have never been to
  30. Fall in love
It's 12:10am now. Happy Birthday Me!

Cheers to my first blog entry ever.

Happy Days
Sila